“Speak less to people you love… because if they can’t understand your silence, they can never understand your words.”
I don’t know who first wrote this line, but I came across it somewhere. Many people believe in it and even practice it. Maybe it works when there’s a deep level of mutual understanding. But I want to write about those who intentionallyfollow this idea in love or relationships—because honestly, I don’t agree with it.
To me, expecting the person you love to always understand your silence is risky—it can fail in so many situations.
What if the person you love doesn’t really love you back? What if they don’t even notice your silence, let alone try to decode it? What if they’re simply not good at reading between the lines? I know I’m not—if someone stays silent with me, I wouldn’t understand the hidden meaning behind it.
Silence can be interpreted in a hundred different ways. It can mean peace, anger, indifference, sadness, or even rejection. Why leave the person you love guessing? Isn’t it unfair to expect them to meet expectations they aren’t even aware of?
I also don’t understand how “speaking less” becomes a measurement of love. Is silence really proof of depth? Or is it, in some cases, just a way of testing the other person? And if love needs constant testing, what kind of love is that?
I’m not against silence—it can be powerful in the right moments. But in love, I feel words matter. If our language gives us so many beautiful and romantic words to express feelings, why not use them? Why leave love unsaid, when speaking it out could make all the difference?
Because sometimes, silence doesn’t say enough.
9 comments:
khyati..
can u express love with words..??
you may be able to express hatred with words, cause thats more expressive form of feeling.. but love is all about understanding and emotions.. and i don't think any dictionary in the world has yet been able to describe or define love.
Its a feeling thats so special that only the person who loves you back can share.. without saying anything at all.
When you know someone.. you know his silence. I think if you cannot understand his silence, then you can only pretend to understand him.
Of course there are misunderstandings when people don't speak what they have in mind.. but then through such misunderstandings only a relationship can mature. No one is perfect from start. But when you get to know someone really well.. i believe words mean nothing at all.
You may not agree.. but thats ok :P
Thanks for pointing out my mistake.. may be I dint put it properly.. I have corrected it..
coming to ur comment..
may be you cannot express it in words.. but I am writing this
against the people doing it purposely..
Silence 80% is misinterpreted.. and it may lead to quarrel.. unnecessary arguments which can be avoided by speaking out what you think..
The feeling of love and being loved is very beautiful.. I agree.. but why to test it in such a way
thnx mystique..for first time ever i agree wid dis dude..and yeah katz got ur perspective too...but just wondering ppl who love ( i dont wanna use the adverb 'truly' cos i believe, if u love it better be true;)each other, y will they 'test' each other?? i mean...wats wrong??? and if it is thn its not love..call me judgemental but its only black or white for me:)btw...someone wrote this lonng back to me..
"silences make the real converstaion btn u and me, its not the saying but the never needing to say wat counts:)"
@LOF
Silence works gr8 between people who are in love.. I feel silence is even more romantic between two people in love..
My point is.. it should come naturally.. not keeping in mind that he/she should understand..
I have written this against people who intentionally do it.. I have written this for people who are in love but doesn't know whether the other person feels the same and believe in it..
I think it is targeted to those who self proclaim the understanding to be present between the two without realizing that the other person has no clue about it.
Its like "maan na maan, main tera maheman".
then mystique, does that qualify to be termed as 'love'?
@LOF :
Imagine, A loves B.. B has no clue nor interest. But, A wants B to behave as A wants and expects B to understand and accept it.
Now you asking "does that qualify to be termed as 'love'?"
I say, "NO". It can be best termed as Misunderstanding.
bingo!
:D Good one
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