On Silence in Love

“Speak less to people you love… because if they can’t understand your silence, they can never understand your words.”

I don’t know who first wrote this line, but I came across it somewhere. Many people believe in it and even practice it. Maybe it works when there’s a deep level of mutual understanding. But I want to write about those who intentionallyfollow this idea in love or relationships—because honestly, I don’t agree with it.

To me, expecting the person you love to always understand your silence is risky—it can fail in so many situations.

What if the person you love doesn’t really love you back? What if they don’t even notice your silence, let alone try to decode it? What if they’re simply not good at reading between the lines? I know I’m not—if someone stays silent with me, I wouldn’t understand the hidden meaning behind it.

Silence can be interpreted in a hundred different ways. It can mean peace, anger, indifference, sadness, or even rejection. Why leave the person you love guessing? Isn’t it unfair to expect them to meet expectations they aren’t even aware of?

I also don’t understand how “speaking less” becomes a measurement of love. Is silence really proof of depth? Or is it, in some cases, just a way of testing the other person? And if love needs constant testing, what kind of love is that?

I’m not against silence—it can be powerful in the right moments. But in love, I feel words matter. If our language gives us so many beautiful and romantic words to express feelings, why not use them? Why leave love unsaid, when speaking it out could make all the difference?

Because sometimes, silence doesn’t say enough.

Friends4Life Newsletter

After a long time, Friends4Life group members met.
After a long time I felt, my golden days are back.

I am really happy that we all could make up for this one and the way meeting turned out to be so refreshing. We are far from each other but still close and still share an amazing bond. I hope it remains the same always.

Segment 1: Minutes of the meetings.

Following is the minutes of our meeting @ IST:

The online conference meet was scheduled for 8.00 PM IST on 11^th Aug’07.
Purpose: To make everyone the happiest people on earth.
Location: Skype but later changed to Yahoo.
Members present: Out of 7 group member, 5 of them were present.

8.00 PM: Mrs. Patil and Ms. Katz logged in.
8.03 PM: Mr. AKR logged on to Yahoo and later on Skype.
8.25 PM: Mr. Late Lateef (Mr. RSK) login in to yahoo, and were downloading Skype.
9.12 PM. Mrs. Brid logged in, after struggling whole day for her net connection.

Members had long discussions on some major issues which were solved later.

The conference was successful and achieved its purpose. The meeting was refreshing!!

Mrs. Brid had few guests at home, so she had to take our leave and left the meeting midway. But the meeting continued for more than 5 hours and every one closed the conference at 1.15 AM IST.

Missing People:
Mr. Gopi: We missed your comments and you.
Mr. Patil: We missed your jokes and you.

Segment 2: Suggestions and Conclusions.

Suggestion:
At the end of the conference, Mrs. Patil came up with a suggestion that we all should meet once in a month.
On this Mr. RSK replied, “Why once, we should try more than once.”

Poll:
How many times we should meet in a month?

Options:

1. Once
2. More than Once
3. Every Weekend
4. Everyday (My personal vote for this one).

Warnings:
Mr. Gopi and Mr. Patil are given a last warning that they should be present in the next meeting and no excuses will be entertained.

Conclusion:

After a long discussion, members came to a conclusion that,

“To become thinner, one should be always on top of the things.”

Segment 3: Awards Distribution

On this special occasion, I am going to announce some SPECIAL AWARDS for the month of August. These awards are going to be disclosed first time on this blog and the winners are not even aware of this.

We had a panel of jury who were present unknowingly for the whole meeting. They analyzed and decided the winners. FYI, the jury panel consisted of following people:

1. Ms. Kedi.
2. Ms. Baboochak.
3. Ms. Pavli.

Now the awards,

Star of the month: Mrs. Patil for her active participation and ultimate comments on some issues. !!! Applause!!!!

Smartest Guy/Gal of the month: Mrs. Brid for smartly adjusting her webcam position. !!! Applause!!!!

Sexiest Guy/Gal of the month: Mr. RSK, on exposing his sexiest legs. !!! Applause!!!

Best Tipper (One who give tips) of the month: Mr. AKR on his expertise in the field of tips. !!!! Applause!!!!

Most Wanted Guy/Gal of the month: Mr. Gopi as he was much in demand due to his absence and for his comments. !!! Applause!!!!

Most Symapthized Guy/gal of the month: Mr. Patil as all cared for his knowledge, his health and his condition post marriage!! Applause!!

And last but not the least,

Sweetest Guy/Gal of the month: Ms. Katz for her innocence and sweetness. Applause!!

I wish all the winners Heartiest Congratulations and Luck for the next one. I wish you’ll perform well in the next meeting.

Segment 4: Feedback

You can send your feedback as a comment on this blog.

Noorie